tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post4496212246379661693..comments2023-07-03T17:02:56.202+01:00Comments on Doris Mash: Carving knives at dawnDorishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14073379610501763461noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-60030585809578570942007-12-09T09:21:00.000+00:002007-12-09T09:21:00.000+00:00Minerva From what I have read on your blog about y...<B>Minerva</B> From what I have read on your blog about your mum and Christmas it sounds absolutely enchanting. I must admit, my daughter has been nicer to me ..... but it is strange to meet her out and about and not to have her as an integral part of daily life as she is off doing her own thing. <BR/><BR/><B>Jane</B> Wait till you get to that stage - it is a very strange feeling! At least you Dorishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14073379610501763461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-75788587216523616262007-12-09T04:17:00.000+00:002007-12-09T04:17:00.000+00:00Doris, you crack me up! But that has been 1 of my ...Doris, you crack me up! But that has been 1 of my hidden worries ever since my kids have become adults. Fortunately, both are too busy working. <BR/>I think for moms of sons the worry is a valid one.Jane Doehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07758069101111238560noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-85324048451092417912007-12-08T13:02:00.000+00:002007-12-08T13:02:00.000+00:00When I was younger I always wanted a conventional ...When I was younger I always wanted a conventional mother. The other girls' mother used to turn up in tweeds and twin sets and mine would turn up in a bright jump suit with boots or some other such.<BR/><BR/>Now I wouldn't exchange her for the world. She is loving, warm, eccentric and utterly mine...<BR/><BR/>Your daughter loves you as you are and what greater accolade as a mother can there be?!Minervahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07909909317029633356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-77650151005258692662007-12-07T21:50:00.000+00:002007-12-07T21:50:00.000+00:00Rashbre So glad you picked up on the classic Vicar...<B>Rashbre</B> So glad you picked up on the classic Vicar of Dibley Christmas episode. It crossed my mind too :-)<BR/><BR/><B>Jo</B> Awww. It may well be a turkey leg because the Nigella Lawson soaked in brine turkey might just be on the menu. I made it last year and it was superb but want to perfect it.<BR/><BR/><B>Chandira</B> Awww again! But you speak lovingly of mothers and yet I do not Dorishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14073379610501763461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-39270764672520160332007-12-07T19:08:00.000+00:002007-12-07T19:08:00.000+00:00Silly Doris!! NOBODY can replace your own mum!! ...Silly Doris!! NOBODY can replace your own mum!! Not even the nicest mother in law in the world... <BR/><BR/>My own mother is a basket case, I'm sure you're way more functional. lol But nobody could replace her! Just that you care if you're not good enough is a good sign that you are. <BR/><BR/>I think that feeling of competitiveness is natural, based on what Adi Da calls the 'Oedipal Chandirahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11629463765622067086noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-81138114078685862452007-12-07T16:03:00.000+00:002007-12-07T16:03:00.000+00:00Yup...for me too.Mother-in-Law 1, Mother 0 in my b...Yup...for me too.<BR/><BR/>Mother-in-Law 1, Mother 0 in my book, after 45 years of hurt and bitterness (though she is behaving a bit better right now).<BR/><BR/>Now Doris. You are a fantastic mother. You <B>are</B>. I know enough of you, from what you have said in all the time I have been reading your words, and the glimpses of the past you have shared with us, to say that without hesitation. Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17356965133404249244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-19587986255822587642007-12-07T15:06:00.000+00:002007-12-07T15:06:00.000+00:00Sorry - but I can't help thinking of that Vicar of...Sorry - but I can't help thinking of that Vicar of Dibley episode... "The Christmas Lunch Incident".<BR/><BR/>And, seriously, good luck with the menu planning.<BR/><BR/><A HREF="http://rashbre2.blogspot.com" REL="nofollow">rashbre</A>rashbrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01138427049001650099noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-66497312200219399612007-12-07T11:00:00.000+00:002007-12-07T11:00:00.000+00:00Alan! Same as me! My mother-in-law is an absolute ...Alan! Same as me! My mother-in-law is an absolute darling and am lucky to have her still. I dread the thought of losing her and fear that I shall cry more for my in-law parents than my own.<BR/><BR/>Meanwhile, however my daughter or her boyfriend think of me doesn't take away this surprising feeling I have, of competition with someone I have never met! It is such a surprise to me and so illogical.Dorishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14073379610501763461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-66974105369686298622007-12-07T10:30:00.000+00:002007-12-07T10:30:00.000+00:00For me, there was never a competition, I loved my ...For me, there was never a competition, I loved my mother-in-law dearly and miss her terribly!<BR/><BR/>In the few years I had her, she was more Mom than mine has ever been...<BR/><BR/>Somehow I bet you rate right up there as well!<BR/><BR/>alanalanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06013341654649926300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-91100523983796869072007-12-07T10:09:00.000+00:002007-12-07T10:09:00.000+00:00Ah yes, Thursday. I recall now daughter referring ...Ah yes, Thursday. I recall now daughter referring to her guy as a bit of a mummy's boy so maybe you are right.<BR/><BR/>It is mean of me (on this occasion) but at least it is not just me feeling anxious. No doubt though if we met, I'd be the epitome of graciousness: "What this, oh no, no trouble at all, absolutely delighted to meet at last...."!Dorishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14073379610501763461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7053427813454658272.post-45221602993787935222007-12-07T08:48:00.000+00:002007-12-07T08:48:00.000+00:00MIL-in waiting is possibly feeling as though she's...MIL-in waiting is possibly feeling as though she's been replaced in her beloved son's affections by your daughter. She's probably feeling as anxious as you are about the change in dynamics of her relationship with her son. Worry not - sounds like you have a very good relationship with your daughter who will always want her own mum.Thursdayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14716094675201690499noreply@blogger.com